How not to deal with bullies

Sometimes as parents, we face some
tough choices. One that comes to our
mind is how to handle the kid who is
bullying your kid.

While our son was still in grade
school we faced such a problem. A
bully seemed fixated on our son. We
went and spoke with the teacher who
proclaimed she hadn’t seen any problems
but would keep an eye open.

When it happened again said teacher
stopped just short of calling our son
a liar. We were told if she didn’t see
it, it didn’t happen.

Out of kindler, gentler, politically
correct ways to resolve the issue, I
came up with something I knew would
work.

I told him the next time the bully
got close to just haul back and punch
him in the nose. I also told him that
if word got back that he backed down
he would receive free boxing lessons
in the back yard. Honestly, at the
time, I never expected it to go any
farther.

Something like that is a huge fear to
overcome. Our son did act on the advice
though and I was called at work to come
remove the ‘threat’ from the school
grounds.

There was no talking to the principal
who seemed to believe our son was a
‘thread to other students’. After a heated
exchange we left.

Out in the car our son told me he
was scared to death, but when he hit
the bully in the nose, said bully
cried like a baby!

After a couple of whoops and high
fives in the 48′ we cruised over to a
McDonald’s for a celebratory Big Mac
and fries.

While we don’t recommend this course
of action for all who have problems
with bullies, we can say in our case
it worked.
Comments are always welcome.

4 Responses to How not to deal with bullies

  1. thescoundrel says:

    A smart bully keeps their bullying tactics hidden when teachers or responsible adults are around. The best method is to stand up to them or they will never relent in their torture.

  2. cruisin2 says:

    scoundrel,
    Taking a stand worked for us, but with this zero tolerance thing schools have going it isn’t for the faint of heart.

  3. Old Guy in Davenport says:

    It seems to me that the Zero Tolerance thing has turned into Zero Intelligence.

  4. cruisin2 says:

    Old Guy in Davenport,
    lol, sad but true. When we went to school it was a judgement call, now it just automatically is.

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